Sex and health

Here you can read about safer sex, testing and what can be good to think about in sexual meetings with people who give compensation for sex.

Safer sex means having sex in a way that minimizes the risk of HIV and other STIs being transmitted. Safer sex also means avoiding getting pregnant if you don't want to.

HIV and STIs can be transmitted through different kinds of sex. The greatest risk of transmission of HIV and most STIs is through anal or vaginal intercourse with a penis, and with oral sex with a penis (for the one that uses their mouth). To reduce the risk of transmission of HIV and other STIs using a condom is recommended in anal and vaginal intercourse and in oral sex with a penis, and avoiding getting sperm in your mouth.  

Condoms protects against pregnancy and most STIs.

At umo.se you can read more about safer sex and other things concerning sex, identity and body.

Testing

Testing is the only way to find out if you're living with HIV or have an STI. It's important to get tested regularly since HIV and STIs don't always have any symptoms. If you have sex often with different partners it's good to get tested every three months. Also get tested if you're worried that you have HIV or another STI.

When you get tested it's important to tell the staff how you've had sex since STIs can be located at different parts of the body (in the throat, on/in the genitals, or in the anus). Sometimes the staff where you get tested assume that people only have vaginal intercourse with a penis. That can lead to overlooking a local infection, for example chlamydia, which won't be treated. The testing staff generally, (and should!), ask what type of sex you've had, but if they don't you have to tell them.

In many places there are clinics that target LGBTQ individuals or have been trained in LGBTQ issues. Some clinics target boys and men – regardless of sexuality. In Stockholm, Göteborg and Skåne RFSL offers a quick test for HIV.

In sexual meetings

Some people feel that they sometimes agree to sex that they don't really want to have, like unprotected sex or something else that doesn't feel rights. It's a good idea to talk to someone about that, for example the staff at the youth clinic or us at the Pegasus chat. Together we can discuss what would feel better for you and how you can get there.

Remember that you are valuable and have the right to feel good! Be clear about your sexual boundaries and think carefully about what type of sex you want to have or try. Many people who have experience of sex for compensation say that it's easier to stick to your boundaries if you've thought them through carefully beforehand. To have thought about sex and boundaries is of course important even when having sex without compensation.

Think about:

  • What kind of sex you want to have and in what way?
  • What feels good for you?
  • What feels less good or not good at all?
  • How you can say yes to what you want?
  • How you can say no to what you don't want to do or doesn't feel right?

It's common that people who buy sex want unprotected intercourse. If you've though about the questions above it can be easier for you to handle such situations.